Wellllll hello my friends!
It’s been a while and I apologize! The holiday season was truly beautiful and I am so thankful to have been in the presence of my family and great friends. But, nevertheless I am back and I would like to formally wish you a Happy Happy New Year! May the Lord send upon you many blessings, peace, and surround you with his love and graces every day of 2018!
In the spirit of the year and every one setting the famous “New Years Resolutions.” I share with you a few tips on setting goals and doing your best to obtain them! I also started this about 7 days late, because, well… that is just how i roll sometimes I have learned, BUT also, I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be a new year to start setting new goals or making resolutions. So whenever you are reading this, remember: Start now, start today! Set goals, and go get them!
I believe in you! God didn’t bring you to reading this for nothin! 😉
So, I am currently reading the book “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin (which I, so far, totally recommend!). The author provides for herself her very own Twelve Commandments in which she creates to help her when she was struggling with a goal/resolution she made.
Everyone’s twelve commandments will look different, you may start with a long list of about 15/20 commandments (I know I did). But I do encourage you to take the time to think about what is important to you? What are you striving for? What are some things you need to tell yourself daily? What are some quick little reminders to stay on track, stay positive, stay motivated?
I decided to create my own, which I will happily share with you in hopes that it may provide you with some ideas for you own 12 commandments!
Karla’s 12 Commandments
- Pray more, pray often.
- Don’t gossip.
- Make time.
- Say “thank you”, instead of “I’m sorry.”
- Choose not to take things personally.
- Reach out.
- Enjoy every bite.
- Things will get done.
- It’s OK to say “no”.
- Value other opinions, but value yours more.
- Accept everything with praise, thanksgiving, and a smile.
- In decision making, ask yourself: “Is it true? Is it beautiful? Is it good?”
I hope you can find 12 that truly resonate with you. I have saved these commandments on my phone on the Notes app and I try to look at them daily or when I am faced with a decision or feel like I need some encouragement. Lastly, I share with you a method for setting good and obtainable goals. I learned this method in the last week when I attended a faith sharing group at my parish, and I wanted to share with you in hopes that it will help you set some goals that will not only last, but that you can GO GET! 😉💘
It is called the “SMART” method, some of you may have heard of it! But here goes!
Specific: Be specific with your goal. “I want to pray more” is a great but a little too general…however, saying “I am going to pray more by going to the chapel.” would be getting down into the specifics.
Measurable: Getting more specific, and measurable would be something like “I am going to pray by going to the chapel once a week, on Mondays.“ This is something I can measure over time & improve/change if needed because you are able to measure it (for example, how many Monday’s you are able to attend, or not).
Attainable: The goal you set must be possible. For example, “I am going to pray more” is attainable, but if you set a goal that says “I am going to pray more by going to the chapel at 1 PM” when I know that I work during those hours – would make this goal unattainable, which taps into the later steps below. ☺️
Realistic: Be realistic about the goals you set too. If you know for a fact you are not a morning person, it may be unrealistic to set your prayer time at 5 or 6 AM. If you really want to strive for a more fruitful prayer life, however are not used to praying for long periods of time, start at your own pace. Just because someone you know spends hours at the chapel, doesn’t mean that is what works for you. If you are just beginning to strive to pray more, maybe set 5 – 10 minutes… You know what works for you. 😉🌸
Time: This one is important. How are you going to make time to strive to meet this goal? i.e. I know that I am free Monday nights after work, therefore I can set time aside to specifically work on this goal. “I am going to go to the chapel every week on Monday’s after work for 15 minutes.” I have found my goal, it’s attainable, it’s measurable, it’s realistic, and I have set aside time to work on this goal.
“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” – Michelangelo
“Therefore living a life that is not ultimately beautiful.” – Leah Darrow
This method can be true for your New Years Resolution, or goal setting in general. Whether it be in your workplace, your prayer life, your spiritual life, your friendships, family life, etc. By taking the time to use this method you are more inclined to recalling the goal(s) you have set and working on them because of the time you spent creating them and using this method.
I invite you to take the time right now, today —to set yourself a goal right now using this method. Write it down and strive.
I also encourage you, if possible, to find an accountability partner! This helps stay motivated and gives you a little angel to keep you going when it get’s tough! Text someone you know that will keep you accountable now and share with them your goal(s), maybe you’ll encourage them to set some of their own!
All journey’s should have an end in mind.
May God bless your resolutions and goals this year, and may He bring you the grace to obtain them.
I would love to see your own 12 commandments or the goals you have created for yourself. Share them with me below or on Snapchat, Instagram, or anywhere!
I am praying for you! Always.
Happy New Year my dear friends!
“I only look at the present, I forget the past, and I take good care not to forestall the future.” ― St. Therese of Lisieux