How many of us spend most of our lives wishing to be somewhere else?
“If I just get that perfect job I will be happy”, “If I find the perfect girl/guy I’ll be happy. I won’t be lonely anymore”, “If I get more money I’ll be happier…I won’t worry anymore”
Preoccupied with where we think we need to be, and failing to live in the present. It’s a constant struggle of comparison. That constant self talk of telling ourselves we are never enough.
Recently I began a book called “Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown, Ph.D., LMSW. (Totally recommend it, so far!) She shares with us a excerpt from one of her favorite books The Soul of Money by Lyanne Twist:
“For me, and for so many of us, our first waking thought of the day is “I didn’t get enough sleep.” The next one is “I don’t have enough time.” Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours and days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of. Before we even sit up in bed, our feet touch the floor, we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something. And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds are racing with a litany of what we didn’t get, or didn’t get done, that day. We go to sleep burdened by those thoughts and wake up to that reverie of lack…This internal condition of scarcity, this mind-set of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealousies, greed, our prejudice, and our arguments with life…” (43-45).
(The word “scarce” meaning lacking in quantity. Not enough of.)
What if there is just as much grace in loss, as there is in receiving?
Just as much grace in suffering, as there is in moments of joy?
What if there is just as much grace in falling, as there is in rising?
Just as much grace in the unknown, as there is in trusting?
Just as much grace in vulnerability, as there is in comfort?
But what if there is just as much grace in restlessness than there is in rest?
What if it’s all gift?
What if we experience the suffering FOR the joy ? Do we fail to realize this when we are faced with trials?
What if we stopped wishing we were somewhere else, and instead were completely present to what God is doing in our lives today?
“No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, you are enough. Yes, we are imperfect and vulnerable, and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that you are also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” – Brené Brown, Ph.D. LMSW